Wednesday, May 9, 2018

#Mother's day contest- Mixed Emotions of My Motherhood journey

Being a mom is a gift that is unimaginably precious. It is a love that never ends; it is a relationship that never dies. Nothing else can produce the true joy and satisfaction that motherhood allows. It is a journey that made us happy every day. Being a mom and enjoying the sweet tiny moments of motherhood is a dream of every woman.
Of course, it is a life-altering experience. It shows us wide spectrum of emotions in a single day. It is true that,

“When you are a mother you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice. One for herself and one for her child”- Sophia Loren

For me, it has been an amazing journey so far. I am fortunate enough that I had gotten this golden opportunity twice in my life. Being a mom of two cute dolls I feel my selves the luckiest person in the world. I had a beautiful life that always filled with some ordinary, some extraordinary, some crazy and some mad moments. I love to celebrate the divine spirit of motherhood every day. Of course, we all love the warmth of being a mom and we all love to enjoy this hilarious journey. But the glimpse of real life is the messier and more complicated than the assumption.

 Being a mom, every morning I love to wake up my dolls. I love to see their little faces and feet every morning.  Their giggles and laughter filled my house with a great positive energy instantly. I absolutely enjoy their hugs and kisses. I love to cook healthy breakfast for them, and then get them ready for the school; Morning Prayer and weaving a goodbye….I love each and every moment. I want to teach them all good things that I had learnt from my mother. I tried my hardest to teach them about love, compassion and honesty. I want to make them a strong and confident individual. They beat of my heart and the energy of my soul. Yes! It is true that every morning I fall in love with them all over again and again.

 But, being a mom, there are days, when I am tired of the monotony. Sometimes there are days when I just do not feel like doing anything. I just do not want to get from the bed. Indeed, I want to sleep for hours uninterruptedly until my body wakes up by themselves. During these days I felt that waking up my dolls is the most daunting task in the world. Because I know they would not listen to me easily. It will take 20-30 minute to just make them wake up. Their morning tantrums driving me crazy.  And then again the same sequence of routine tasks (breakfast, get them ready…) make me feel made. I felt a sense of stagnation and boredom in life.

Oh! You may think I am a pessimist and a low-spirited person. But it is not true. I still love the feeling of being a mom each day. Seeing my kids happy is one of the best feelings in the world for me. When my little dolls get bored, I love to gather all craft supplies and create beautiful crafts with them. I adore each moment when we read a book together, go for a walk, snuggle with them in bed. 

These sweet tiny moments filled my heart with an undefined pleasure immensely.  I want to preserve these great moments for future as a precious memory. Because I know that, very soon they will be grown up, get married and will have their own lives. And I realised the grim realities of the empty nest. I know, one day they wouldn’t need me anymore.  I will be alone and will miss every single moment of their childhood. So I do not want to miss these delightful moments and love to celebrate the spirit of motherhood every day. I just love the feeling of being a mom.

But some days, I am over exhausted as a being a mom.  I get up and just go through the mommy motions even really finding any joy and creativity.  I feel irritated when they do not listen to me. I shout on them when they do not finish their food properly. I get angry when I finished a clean-up and they messed up again within few minutes. I feel mad when I heard “we are getting bored” sentence 100 times in a day.  And then I just want to run away from these never-ending tasks and pressuring responsibilities. I just want only me and my time.

But very soon I realised that realised that motherhood is a precious gift of God.  It is one of the most treasured blessings in my life. I suddenly had a realisation that yes! Motherhood is hardest….but is greatest too. It is the glorious life force. And there are so many women who want to be a mom but they cannot. And I get to fall in love with my job all over again. And enjoy the amazing feeling of being a mom.

 Of course, as a mom, it feels great when my daughters won awards and appreciation in school. I experience a great sense of joy in volunteering in all school activities. It seems that their all crafts and projects are mine and I want to make the best with my all efforts. I love to cook ten different dishes in a single day, when they show food tantrums. I watch all kids show and rhyme videos with absolute pleasure. I like to shop for them and want to buy most elegant clothing for them. I want to make them “prettiest princess” in the world.

But it is true that sometimes, I feel very depressed that I had left my carrier only for my family. Sometimes, I miss my individuality. I missed my job. Sometimes, I want to shop only for me (that rarely happens). I want to cook only those dishes which I love (I did not remember the last moment when I had done that), I want to watch only my favourite shows and movies (usually, I did not get a chance to touch the remote)

Last but not the least I missed my mom so much, especially after being a mom. Now, I can realise that how much she loved me? How she has sacrificed her all desires only for us? I missed each moment of her love and care. And along with this, I missed my life as a daughter who always shows tantrums on smallest things but had an amazing mom who always loves me.

So yes! I feel fortunate to have a wonderful family. And I enjoy each moment of my life as a daughter, mother, sister, and a wife. I love to celebrate the spirit of motherhood every day. Definitely, it is an absolute pleasure and the most amazing feeling that is the most extreme measure of being alive. I really love everything about “being a mom”.  But it is also true that I also want to celebrate a life of an individual too. I want some quality time for my selves every day. I love to cultivate a purpose in my life that is uniquely my own. I want to be able to do things which I want to do. I get to contribute to the world by any mean. I always want to feel better about my selves with a positivity of “self-identity”.

You may think I am a “Selfish mom” but it was an honest confession of me. What is yours? Do you also get the powerful mix of emotions every day? Please with us.

This post is a part of mother day contest hosted by Kreativemommy.com


3 comments:

  1. I never was fortunate enough to have children. I always dreamed of being a mom but it didn't happen for me. Your post was great. You talked about all aspects of being a mom, both the positive and the negative. I didn't think that it was selfish at all.

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  2. Like Alice, I too didn't have the good fortune of being a Mom. I'm sure the 'lows' are adequately compensated by the 'highs'. Enjoy this phase of their lives and yours!

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  3. Thanks for a lovely post, and yes, you're right. Sometimes it would be nice to have just a few minutes to yourself! But the time goes by so quickly. Enjoy every minute of those precious dolls. Mine are all grown up and miles away and I long for the rare times I get to spend with my little grand-dolls - some of whom are old enough to have their own babies! https://shirleycorder.com/thankful-thursday-20/

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