How to make kids independent

Being independent is a great feeling and as an adult we all enjoy it, but when it comes to teach this good habit to kids, it is somewhat difficult. It requires some practice and patience. There are two obstacles one from parent side, when they need to finish a task in particular time, they do not show confidence in kids and finish it by themselves. On practical aspect it is not too bad. Second when kids do not show any interest in doing any task independently because of laziness or they think that my dad or mom will do this.

Here are some simple methods for solving this problem.

Start from very simple task and then shift to complex- we need to start from very simple and basic task. Before assign them any task explain them importance of independent work in life and how this habit will help them in future? Then explain the detail and proper way and method of any task, even when task is very simple also. By this way they will get an interest in task and would be able to that independently. Proper explanation is the best way to make kids convinced for anything. I have tried this on my kids often with good result. Some good examples of simple tasks are-

·         Dress up by themselves and after changing put their clothes at proper place.

·         Put on shoes and socks by them and put them at shoe rack.

·         Prepare backpack at night before school and put all school stuffs are at proper place.

·         Comb hairs, brush teeth, get ready for school are some simple task that can be a good start for making kids independent.

Shift from simple to complex task- it will be second step. For more complex task like clean-up of room or setting a dinner table or cook a simple meal encourage them for start and then told that I will help you for complete it. Most of the kids do not show any interest to complete it, and then use your all magic words, explain them importance of clean up, teach all simple steps to complete a complex task. We can use an interesting fact or a story about that task, but help is a must part of any complex task. We need to repeat this process so many times until they get habitual to it.

Involvement activities- these activities are a great way for starting any task independently. For ex. To plant a tree in backyard, take help of your little one. To raise their interest explain them whole process. By this way they will get the knowledge of whole process and would be able to that kind of tasks independently with less effort. Some good examples of involvement activities are arrange a salad plate, rinse plates, arrange wardrobe.

Pretend activities – these are a good method for repeating steps of task. For ex. prepare a doll for school or for doctor visit. By doing this kids will learn all steps of this routine task and would be able to do that more independently in future.

Rewarding- rewarding and praise is must for all good behaviour and for completing any task. It will encourage them and build a good level of self confidence in them. We can make a behaviour and task chart for week to evaluate their performance.

Be rigid and take control- when they do not listen or do not show any interest for completing task independently, be rigid and take control and as a consequence we can take their privilege like playing video game for few days.

So just follow these simple steps and repeat it. Within few days you would be able to achieve your goal and your kids will be more independent and happier too.

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First aid homeopathic kit for kids

Homoeopathy is a great branch of medical science which helps in gentle and permanent cure.as we all know that it gives good cure without side effect, so it is great for kids.as for as first aid is concern a homoeopathic kit is must for every home.
                                                                                                                                                                                                        

                                                                                                              Homoeopathy works on a principal in which cure happen by similar medicine, means a homoeopathic professional collects all symptom of disease person, not only of disease. individualization is must for proper remedy selection.disease person's detail case history, his physical and mental symptoms, habits, desire, aversion all noted by doctors and matched with most similar remedy, that is the reason that there is no specific remedy for specific condition, it all depends upon on collected symptom.that is the reason why homeopath take a long and detail case taking from patient.
                                                                                                                                                                   Yet there are some common remedy for common problems that can treat at home.whenever we treat any illness at home, level of severity, progress or decline of disease must be observe carefully. as a general rule, in any acute illness medicine can be repeated frequently at short interval and as improvement occur frequency should be reduced. for ex. in case of cold in first 1-2 of illness similar medicine may be taken 5-6 time a day and after that 3-4 time a day is enough
  POTENCY- usually low potency like 30c or 6x is best for at home treatment. higher potency may cause aggravation, which is difficult to treat at home.

  FEVER- For mild grade fever fer um phos is first drug of choice.it covers all symptoms of early inflammation means fever, cough, cold. although aconite is also a drug which works in first 24 hours of illness but some senior homeopath advice to avoid it in kids because of its poisonous nature. Belladonna is good for high grade fever with redness, heat, dilated neck vein and severe headache.arsenic album is very good for fever, cough, cold with marked restl

COLDand CORYZA -alium  cepa is drug of choice if nasal discharge is thin and acrid with bland discharge from eyes.arsenic album is drug when cold occur in cold season  with fever and restlessne

 COUGH for dry cough spongia and drosera are best drug.for wet cough ipecac is good. antim tart is used when cough associated with ghar-ghar sound and feels chest is full of phl


 MINOR EYE INFECTION- for redness swelling belladonna  and apis is good drug. for all other minor eye troubles euphresia is best drug.


EAR PAIN- pulsatilla is best drug for ear pain,  Mullen oil can be used for external application apply 2-3 drops in painful ear for 3-4 times


VOMITING for vomiting ipecac is best drug, esp. when associated with nause


 ABDOMINAL PAIN before proper diagnosis colocynthis and mag phos alternately repeat at short interval is best antispasmodic combination.


   CONSTIPATION  Bio chemic combination 4 for constipation is good for infantmag carb is good drug but only at early stage, be alert for sign of dehydration.
                                                                                                                                                                            

TEETHING TROUBLE-specific bio combination for teething is good for all teething troubles. chamomilla is best drug for anger crying and irritation in babies. ca phos also used as a supplement.


MOOD DISORDER AND ANGER-  chamomilla is best drug for mood disorder and anger in all group.


MINOR INJURIES-Arnica is best drug for all kind of blow, fall and sprain and calendula is best antiseptic.


DELAYED MILESTONE-Apart from proper diagnosis and treatment calcarea carb can be given to all babies with delayed milestone.

Although these medicines are very good and work very well when symptoms match perfectly but in acute case combination products can be used. some good combinations are stodal for cough, alfa-alfa as a general tonic,


                                                                                                                                                         

            

                                                                                                                                                           

                                                                                                                                                            

                                                                                                                                                         

.                  although this article is written by a homeopath but it is for information purpose only, not intend to prevent or cure any disease.                      

How to increase creativity and imagination power in kids

kids are innocent learner. they learn a lot every day. learning is a natural process that can be done by various sources. as a parent we all want that all good things should be learn by kids. they should explore their creativity .

Usually we link creativity with drawing,painting or some kind of art, but it is not true, creativity is a great quality that play a essential role is our life. a creative person is more able to deal with his problems properly and can lead a more happy and successful life.

here are some simple methods to develop creativity in kids.

                                                                                                 

                                                                                                                            

    PRETEND PLAY-it  is one of the finest and easiest way for increasing imagination power and thinking ability.it work very well with different age group of kids.for ex.set a scene of hospital or birthday party,school preparation for doll are some common and interesting pretend play by which kids will learn so many new things while playing.

 CRAFTING i think crafting is most loving subject of all kids.crafting may be done according to age and theme.recycling craft,paper craft,cardboard craft.nature craft are some simple themes that can easily done at home.painting and drawing are also good way of enhancing creativity.

 FANCY DRESS AND ROLL PLAY although this activities usually happen at school but why not try this at home also.use some traditional cloths be a king or queen or apply some make up and arrange a ghost party is good way of kids entertainment and it also make them creative

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.EDUCATIONAL GAME are so good for example write the missing words   or    ,pick a objt and write something about it or passing the parcel are some of the educational game that helps to teach so many good things to them while learning
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 STORY  TEELING apart from direct story telling it can be done by different way,for ex.each person will say a line and try to make a new story by this way or puome pictures and each one will pick a picture and will try to make a story

  MUSIC and DANCE rhythm of music and dance is good for their physical fitness and happiness.

PUPPET SHOWT i find it very useful.kids just loved it.puppet can be made by paper or by old socks at home.make a puppet show with different character is very nice way of enhancing creativity.

Apart from that for increasing public speaking capability and for removing public fear arrange a family interview or short speech on different subject.extempore(suddenly each person will pick a slip of paper and will speak on that subject for few minute)are good way of developing communication skill in kids


  COOKING with kids are also cool idea.make simple recipes like pizza,sandwich or salad decoration are good and easy way of making kids active and creative.take their help in household activities like table setting and cloth organisation are good for make them active and busy.

TOYS like clay,blocks,and Lego are also good for increasing their imagination power

  So just try this simple activities for kids and make them happy and active.as because"Busy kids are happy kids".

How to develop healthy and loving relationship between sibling

parenting is gift of god.being a parent second time definitely a moment of pride again but on practical aspect it increases all responsibilities twice.now caring of elder one with the presence of new born,make responsibility doubled.apart from all other responsibilities making a healthy and loving bond between two is a must responsibility of parents.because sibling relationship is one of the most loving relationship in the world.

 When my second daughter was born,my elder daughter was only 2.9 year old and like all other moms i was  under tension that how will i manage them together.so for releasing that pressure i have started "mental preparation"for me and my elder daughter.from the pregnancy time,mostly i try to imagine that how will i do this thing for two kids?or how will i react if both of them cry together?apart from that i talk with my elder daughter that a new baby is coming at our home(who is coming here to play with you,enjoy with you).by this way we both were mentally prepare for acceptance of new baby.so i think for making a strong relationship between sibling them and for managing them properly mental preparation from the time of pregnancy should .istartedt is the first step for making a loving bond between two of them.          

                                                                                          

The most common problem in handling two kids is "negative reaction and non acceptance of older kid"he may become jealous because of lack of attention,he may become irritate because of sharing of space and all other things.so for avoiding this his involvement is first and most important step and it may be done by doing simple thing.for ex.while changing nappies instead of being irritate on elder one,try to involve him in that activity.or at the time of bath routine of new baby take small help with elder one,teach him about this new thing and along with give him all instructions that new born are so sensitive touch them with care.by this way instead of jealously he will enjoy company of new member in family.and if this step is crossed and passed peacefully than path of parenting to two kids will become easier
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As the kids grow"sharing and caring"make a home rule.teach them from very starting point that they have to share and care for each other.in the moment of happiness and sadness(sickness,minor hurt) they have to be together.by practicing this they will create a strong bond with each other from early childhood and it will remain life long.

No compare.this is also a most common issue between siblings, most of us do that unconsciously this  thing create rivalry between them.so never compare between them.for encouragement you can make a weekly chart for different thing like good behaviour,academic record,good eating habits,and reward them for their good result.esp.guide to elder one to praise little one on each small effort in anything like painting,drawing,by this way little one also adopt the same thing in his behaviour.

   Minor fights and hitting are normal,and try they resolve it on their own.but try to make a no hitting rule at home for healthy atmosphere.

                                                                                                  
Try to spend more and more family time together with joy and happiness,it will increases family values and make a strong relationship between sibling,so try to apply this simple tool and enjoy happy sibling ,happy family.

How to develop reading habit in kids

        As we all know"Reading is a skill not a god gift" and it can be developed by practice,but it is not easy and quiet a big challenge in the path of parenting.as a mom of two lovely daughter i have observed that kids are prone at falling in to bad habits very easily like prolonged t.v.watching and playing video game but for formation of good habits hard work,patience and regularity is must.but once a good habit is formed that will last a lifetime.

                                                                                  I think the most difficult task in the path of developing any good habit is"make it interesting and raise a curiosity for it in kids" because kids love only those thing that they find interesting.it is very difficult that tell them"go and read that book" most of the kids will refuse them,because they do not have any idea or curiosity about it,so first thing is to raise a interest.for ex.if i have a book based on animal and bird for my kids and i want that they read it then what i do with my kids i start a small activity based on animal like one will mimic a voice of animal and other will guess it.or choose your favorite animal and say five sentence about it,once kids start involving in it,slowly i open book first i show the pictures and then read it.read loudly and with expressions and also tell them some other interesting fact about that subject.                                                                                                        

Drama and role play before reading also work very well,for ex.if i have a book based on sea animal i start a play like that we are going in a sea  by ship,we are watching different sea animals,once kids are in mood of imagination open the book and read all interesting fact about ocean life and sea animal.no doubt its little hard but it is only a starting point and need to do with small kids,once they grow up they will do it by their own.                                                                                                                     

Fixed a time and daily routine for reading.sleeping time is ideal time and story telling is interesting way for teaching reading habit.
                                                                                                          

Books with nice picture is ideal for all age group of kids,pictures create interest in kids and they will want to know more about them.
                                                                                                        

Make frequent visit to library.kids may feel it is boring but you need to try repeatedly to raise interest in books of different subject.
                                                                                               

Adjust few shelves of books in different room.when you are busy and kids are getting boar ed at least they will turn few pages of book and this will be their first step towards reading habit.

                           
 Instead of reading focus on"learning"make a rule that they should learn a new thing about any subject daily.fix a theme for a week like animals,our country,sports etc and for learning reading is must,when they will understand this thing they will enjoy reading.

                                                

If you have two kids,tell older one to teach younger one by this way also they will enjoy reading.  

Last and most important"Be a role model".role modelling is an excellent way for teaching good habits.so try to apply this simple tools and enjoy "keep reading and keep learning with kids".